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Father's Day 2026

It's been nearly five years.

My funeral director friend (she did KK's funeral) asks if the kids want to contribute something to her Father's Day social media campaign. I say I'll ask, but I bear little hope they will make the effort. To my surprise, two of them do. The one who is most leery of image and photo choice and perception does not participate. Here is what #1 and #3 say, and the photos which they approved of:

One of your most memorable memories with Dad?

When he took me along to learn kite surfing together. I remember we left Singapore for Bintan on a Friday and I skipped school that day to follow him. We spent 2-3 days doing nothing but kite surfing along the shore of Bintan. With any other person, I would have considered the trip not enjoyable. The drive from the jetty to the hotel was bumpy and uncomfortable, the food was average, and the hotel was 2 stars at best. But the fact that I could spend some time together with him away from school made the trip worthwhile. I did eventually kite surf solo for a brief moment without the instructor after a few hours, and I'm glad he got to see that as well

Dad in three words?

Principled, loving, wise.

What you would tell him?

"I love you for everything that you've done."

One of your most memorable memories with Dad?

His cooking delicious dinners for us like mac and cheese.

Dad in three words?

Quiet, sporty, pragmatic.

What you would tell him?

"I miss going out with you on Sundays."

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